Thursday, February 21, 2008

Wrong Blogger Connection

Her blog was one of the first blogs I came across soon after I joined blogspot in 2006. She came to my blog to leave a "Welcome to Blogville!" comment, so I decided to pay her blog a visit. I enjoyed reading her archives so much that I immediately bookmarked the link. She came across as a very down-to-earth, fun-loving and intelligent person, with a great sense of humour. I started visiting her blog regularly, leaving comments and urging her to update.

From her posts, I got to know more about her. We seemed to have a lot of things in common. We were about the same age, she was a Christian like me, we had similar hobbies and interests. I found out that she lived in Lagos, had just finished her service year and was working in one of the new banks. She was single and looking to meet Mr Right. Her many tales of disastrous dates she went on kept her readers hooked. Sometimes though, she wrote inspiring and encouraging posts that everyone could identify with. Her blog became very popular in blogville and I even forwarded her link to some of my friends who were not bloggers to read.

One day I wrote a sad post and she sent me an email after reading it to cheer me up. I was very grateful and soon we started corresponding by email and we became blog-pals. Then one day I got a Facebook friend request from a name I didn't recognise. I ignored it, until the same person sent me a message, and it was my blog pal! Somehow she had tracked me down and discovered my identity. I didn't mind at all, and I was actually flattered that she took the trouble to search for me on Facebook, and that she was willing to reveal her own identity too. I accepted her friend request at once, and we became Facebook pals as well. I went through her albums and I saw that she was really pretty. It turned out we even had a mutual friend who had gone to the same university as she did. We kept in touch regularly, writing on each other's walls and leaving comments on each other's photos and stuff.
Then towards the end of last year, I sent her an email:

"Hey girl, guess what? I'll be coming to Lagos for the Christmas and New Year break! I should be around for three weeks. Do you want to meet up?"

I got a reply a few hours later. She sounded excited and her reply was:

"Wow girl that's great! We must definitely see o. Let me know exactly when you'll be landing. I can't believe I'll soon meet you, gosh it feels like I've known you for ages already. My number is xxxxxxx. Give me a call when you land in my town"

I looked forward to meeting her, as I thought it would be one of the highlights of my trip.

I arrived in Lagos one Wednesday morning and was met by my aunt and uncle I would be staying with. Immediately I could, I got a sim card and bought credit to inform my friends, including blog-pal that I was in town. I had so many people to see, places to go and things to do in the three weeks I would be staying for. My aunt was also planning to celebrate her 50th birthday party on Boxing Day. She wanted it to be a grand affair so I joined her and my cousins with the running around and preparations.

After a few days, I noticed that my aunt and her husband were not on very good terms. They seemed to be either snapping at each other half the time, or ignoring each other completely. I asked my cousin about it, one afternoon, when we were in the car together.
"Kemi, what's going on with your mum and dad?"
She looked at me and I could see she wasn't keen to explain. "Well they are having some problems"
"I noticed. What kind of problems?"
She concentrated on the road ahead of us. "I can't explain right now" she said. "I'll give you the full gist later".
I was curious but I could sense her reluctance and I decided to let it go, hoping that my aunt and uncle would work their problems out.

Meanwhile I had been speaking to my blog-pal regularly and we finally arranged a time and place to hook up. We decided to meet at the Silverbird Galleria. I was so excited to meet her that I got my cousin to drop me there an hour early. While I waited for her to arrive, I browsed the media store, bought some books and a magazine. Then I went to the top floor, bought some popcorn and browsed the mag to while away the time. Soon I got a text from her and I texted back, telling her to meet me at the top.

I recognised her immediately I saw her from her facebook profile. She was even prettier in person. We greeted each other like we were long-lost friends, which in a funny way, we were. Soon we were chatting away about this and that over lunch . We got on so well that no one observing us would guess that we were just meeting each other for the first time. I took some photos with my camera and I promised to put them on Facebook later. After the meal, we saw a movie and afterwards, she had to leave as she had a long journey back home. I wanted to meet her again if it was possible.
As we walked down the stairs, I asked her, "Are you free on Boxing Day?"
"Uhm, let me see, I've got a wedding, one of my colleagues from work. Why?"
"My aunt is celebrating her 50th birthday that day"
"Oh I see, whereabouts is the party happeneing?"
I told her the venue of the hall we were using.
"Oh that's not too far from the reception venue. I'll see if I can leave the reception early to come for the party, but I'll let you know"
"It would be great if you could make it" I said.
Outside the galleria, we hugged each other goodbye and then she got into a cab, while I waited for my cousin to come and pick me up.

On the day of my aunt's party, my cousins and I were so busy helping to set up everything and attending to guests, that I almost forgot my blog-pal sid she might come. I did notice that my aunt and uncle seemed to have put their problems aside, at least for the benefit of the guests. They were smiling and posing for the cameras throughout the party and my uncle didn't leave his wife's side for one minute. They even looked the part, when they were on the dance floor together.
While I was busy serving a particularly fussy woman, I felt a tap on my shoulder. I looked up and I saw my blog-pal smiling at me. I was so glad she could make it.
"Hi girl!" I said. "Please take a seat, I'll join you shortly"
But then she said, "Oh, I'm sorry, I can't stay. I have to go"
I was surprised and I said "Ah ah, you've just come now. Wait for me I'm coming"
She shook her head and took my arm. "I can't stay, I'm in a hurry. I just came to see you"
I asked a steward to attend to the woman I was serving and walked outside the hall with her. She looked uncomfortable as we made our way out of the hall. I was slightly disappointed that she couldn't stay, but I said okay and I saw her off to the exit . She waved at me and promised "I'll call you tomorrow!"
So I hugged her and waved goodbye.
I turned back to go into the hall and as I was taking the stairs at the entrance, I saw my cousin walking towards me as fast as her tight Ankara skirt and high heels would let her. She had a very angry and disgusted look on her face.
"What are you doing with that girl?" she demanded. "Where do you know her from?"
I told her that blog-pal was a good friend and a very nice girl.
My cousin looked as if she was about to slap my face.
"That girl is my dad's girlfriend!" she shouted. "She's the one causing problems in their marriage! How dare you invite her to my mum's party?"
I stared at her in shock. I could not reconcile the words she was saying with the lovely person I had just said goodbye to.
"Wh-what do you mean?" I managed to stammer.
"I said she's my dad's mistress! And you're telling me she's your friend?"
"I'm so sorry, I-I didn't know", I croaked.
"You better hope my mum didn't see both of you together" my cousin hissed and turned her back to me, walking away.
I stood there, still reeling from the information I had just heard. It just didn't make sense. I couldn't believe that the girl I had been reading her blog for months, become virtual friends with, and hung out with a few days ago, was the same person dating my uncle and threatening my aunt's marriage.

I had the feeling that I wouldn't be hearing from her again.

Disclaimer: This story is not completely true. It's a mixture of real events and some of my over-active imagination.


  1. I had a feeling that this is how the story would end for some reason.

    How unfortunate! I pray that things will be resolved for the better.

    When issues like infidelity come up, I never think it's fair to blame one person (and I'm certainly not saying that you are blaming her exclusively) but I think both your uncle and your blog connection are responsible for threatening the marriage (and in fact, if the blog connection isn't even aware of his marital status, then the blame falls more squarely on your uncle).

    I hope she reads this and is able to do the right thing, now that she knows what the story is (if she didn't know it previously).

  2. This is unbelieveable, hang on a second!!! This story has broken the law of probability. Out of about 140M Nigerians, what a chance?

    Allwell, that seems to be the way the cookies crumbles.
    I hope you Uncle & Aunt sorts themselves out.
    As per your friend(?), she's got to find her own man.

    Hope you had a good Christmas, afterall!

  3. fg i enjoyed ur journey down the aisle blog and have started my own testimonial journey. I will be blogging my life jouney with Gods guidance and will need good people like u to advise where necessary so pls visit.

  4. Anonymous3:19 AM

    the story is funny sha, haba. but you never know till you hear both sides, trust me on that

  5. Favoured girl,

    I know this is real...but you know me...I just have to laugh. This life and its twists and turns na wa!!! Lollll... Do u really mean it???? All this while? Ur very own blog-pal (kinda like me and u???)


  6. Wow FG,

    Life and its funny twists and annonymous would be good to hear both sides of the coin..
    Sometimes, some people are just meant to be a phase in our lives to make us realize or see something, but only God knows why.

  7. wow wow wow. but i think u should hear her side of d story though,...

  8. Anonymous9:23 AM

    FG, please tell us, which blogger is she?

  9. @Anonymous of what use will that information be and which one is "tell us", you mean "tell me"?

    @Favoured girl, it just goes to show like they say that this world is small indeed.

    I bet she has not contacted you since.

  10. It's really a small world. I pray that all goes well with your uncle and aunt. It is well

  11. wow..are u for real?? this world is small o...
    hmm i guess u cant pass any judgement till you hear her side of the story but men i feel u o....i can imagine you girls cant't be like tight anymore...
    o ga!!!
    I pray your aunt and uncle sort themselves out as well...

  12. ehn!!! babe im callin u rite about pick up ur damn come u "forgot" 2 give me this gist!
    anyway how sad is this, pele o esp 2 ur aunt and cousin...theres no way u could have known so they shouldnt blame u.

  13. chei!!! this life na waa o! Christian babes! Anyways sha am sure she has her own story to tell. I suggest you get in touch with her and confront her with the issues perhaps you might even be able to convince her to leave your uncle alone. You might even be able to counsel her to turn a new leaf. And if she is reading this, ole girl, you need to change o. one day you too will become madam & you woun't like it for one small chick to be hustling your man o. i dont know you but from what i read from your blog pal you've got brains so please put it to good use. a man who cant be faithful to his wife of many years wont be faithful to you!!

  14. OMG! I am so in shock! I guess we can never fully know people virtually and just have to exercise a little extra caution...

  15. hey favored girl, nice to hear from you....oooops. I finished reading the post before I realized twas a girl writing...i was expecting to see the usual...'blogger affair''

    eh yah. Its a small world sha, one has to just be careful.

    its me, mypenmypaper

  16. shalewa2:37 AM

    i think this world is not just small but too small,and too,blog pal,uncle, like,whats the link? but like lee said,some people are meant to be a phase in our lives to make us realize/see some things.listen to her side of the story and try to convince her against the act.make her understand "the world goes round" and she may even find herself in ur aunt's shoes(though i don't wish that for her) when she's settled.

  17. Damn.. i knew something was up, but I did not see that coming!!

  18. Gosh, thanks for your comments and concerns guys! Erm, unfortunately the story is not true. I was just testing my fiction writing skills. I decided to add a twist to the usual "bloggers meeting up" story.

  19. Now you tell us, lol!

  20. I'ld keep my comments since you said it wasn't real. But i enjoyed the read though. How'r you doing?

  21. Ha!!! You're too mush!!! Nollywood needs you. Nice one.

  22. Well, this kind of scenario does seem plausible in instances...:-)

  23. Hope the story ain't real cos what u going to do in this senaraio. hope u doing good.

  24. is a lie.i fell and fell hard.i don't know what to say ,whether i shud compliment you or i shud just grab ur neck and........But that was good.keep working on ur writing skills.u are on ur way to becoming a writer of the year or better still, a best selling author.cheers

  25. wowwwwwww !!!! what a shocker!!!

  26. FG..I do wonder which parts are true and which parts are fictitonal...I'm quite surprised though!
    Anyway, how have you been? Hope you are keeping well....stay blessed!

  27. LOL...i was spell-bound reading this!God help us all...

    Thanks for dropping by my blog..Howz the writing coming?

  28. LOL. I just had to lol.. Well Done!!!

  29. ok, its not true, it could b true tho.

  30. ok sometimes truth is stranger than fiction!
    crazy situation that

  31. Abeg, what part of this story is due to ur over active imagination?

  32. Anonymous3:39 PM

    Great post, I am almost 100% in agreement with you


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